I must admit. I once had grand plans for this blog. It would be the ultimate source of information on me  and my study .but  then real life hit and reality sank in.

Especially now that life, in general, is started to become normal for me here. I began to realize that it isn’t everyday that something extraordinary takes place. Life is full of challenges, but these challenges are only given to you because God knows your faith is strong enough to get through them.

I can't exactly pin point what I 've been through and  what I learnt but I can tell you that I've had many life changing ups and downs. And in this process have realized and learnt many things .The only thing I can say is I am able to see the brighter side of the life . Just growing up I guess I  stared  seeing the world in so many different ways and realize that things aren't always the way you are."

Everyone knows that life is short, but you don't understand the importance of giving as much love today, until something is lost .

shh..surprise plan for DH

Birthday and valentine day Surprise
Every year since I met my DH it's been the same routine gifts, cards, and flowers, for the birthday and the Valentines day which followed the next day ,it gets boring to give the same gifts everytime and even I intend to plan for it days a head i was not able to find anything different from the routine to give,So I intend to do something totally different or experimental this time
When the clock struck 12 in the midnight I decide that I will wish him and make him cut the store brought cake and in the day I would bake a cake for the first time and take him for a surprise dinner at SERENITY
And for the valentines day planned to just go on as normal through out the day and in the evening I have planned to cook his favourit meal and would arrange for a romantic candle light dinner and then end the day by giving the gift which was hidden for a while as I have been planning for it long
I hope he enjoys his birthday and Valentines gift this year, shhh it’s a secret please don’t tell

Iam in the process of moving and setting up my career, so I'll be taking break from blogging until end of feb.
Hopefully I'll be able to resume back to blogging in march,

'Most beautiful month of my life' at AOL

I would like to share my experience with all
About the Art of Living basic course which I did.
I and my dh planned to start this year in a unique way so we decided to go to AOL and join for the basic course part 1 so to start a new beginning of this year we decided to celebrate the 31 night at the ashram .Thanks to my hubby who made me to join him for this course.
"I came to the ashram for the first time and that was the most beautiful month of this year and a new beginning of my life where I got to have a unique experience .

The atmosphere and the energy of this ashram was very pleasant. And staying at the place was a unique experience as if staying in an entire different world .There are people from diverse backgrounds, yet there is a spirit of belongingness and so much positivistic,"

The course was just too good.
The course offers a simple and effective techniques for eliminating stress, resolving conflict, improving health and living life with new joy and enthusiasm

Out there in the course we are also taught a unique and ancient breathing technique known as "Sudarshan Kriya".

To start with I thought it would be some general breathing technique , same as pranyams but it was different from those which I know and which can be practiced daily within a minimal time and believe me the practice really nourishes our body and mind.

In fact when I started the course I was thinking it just to be a normal breathing technique and was taking the things light.
But when I really started doing it, I started knowing what it really meant. It leaves one so peaceful, have never experienced such Peace before. No thoughts to disturb you at all, absolutely no stress.
It is to be practiced for hardly 25 minutes a day. So powerful yet so simple.

The tutor explained us how it works.

The tutor said:

Normally we inhale just 30 % of our lung capacity, but By using this technique one can inhale up to 100% of One’s lung capacity.

The secret is: when oxygen is
Inhaled in the proper amount, it oxygenates each and
Every cell of your body, thus removing negative toxins
Off your body. Also the rhythms of breath using this
Technique is such that it inserts in you the natural
Rhythm of breath as required by humans for a peaceful
Day.
The fact is:
When one is depressed the natural pattern of breath in oneself is disturbed i.e. one tends to breath with Shorter breaths, and when happy, longer breaths .This
Technique inserts the right patterns of breath in U again.

Exploring this technique we get to know how it benefits ones body.

Thanks to it, now I feel more optimistic, balanced and ready for anything in life.
It has made me go deep within my faith and now I feel so safe and beautiful from within

journey of self realisation

Self realization is the process by which any human being can realize his real self. And what does this real self mean?

Self realization can be defined simply by saying that a person who believes that body and, soul are entirely two different things, is on the path of self realization. Self or the Soul is real whereas Physical body is relative or unreal.


The Self-realization technique is based on a living experience, the origin of which resides within us. It allows us to gain access to a state of consciousness which is beyond thinking or emotion. This state of thoughtless awareness is within our self and begins purifying our mind, body and soul

Self-Realization can be considered the art of knowing who you are and how u are ?
Reaching the stage of self realization just cannot be expressed in words. Self realization has to be only experienced.
we reach the stage of self realization we need to gain absolute control over the senses and the mind.self-realization has to be integrated in our life, in a balanced and aware way, then your starting point begins with our human patterning; of our emotions, feelings, thoughts, actions, intentions and our words.
To realize the self in the right way it takes time, and in the journey of this we need to focus on many things like patience, discipline, commitment, emotions these all will present us with many challenges and obstacles which leads reaching the awareness which are to be part of our self.We have to get over the negative Senses like Ego, Anger, Greed, and Jealousy in order to regain self.
One can ask why we should we know self realization……….
Firstly, knowing the depths of mind and self, will get relived of the daily life of stress at that level, one solves the greatest riddles of life and always invents a new path towards solving any problem. That state of bliss can only prepare the mind to open new vistas of knowledge.

In this stage we can fulfill our life with happiness and also spread it around us
Self Realization will occur within each human being. Then an inner transformation takes place by which one becomes moral, united, integrated and feel balanced. We overcome Anger, regret, grievances, anxiety, guilt, ego, jealousy. And simultaneously when we no longer create suffering for our self, we no longer create suffering for others. Now we enjoy life to the maximum, not only with other human beings, but also with nature and all life forms... In other words, everywhere we encounter our self.

Just when I think I have learned the way to live, life changes

...................... realisation

...to the Blogosphere! Where was I?what I was doing all these days ? Travelling?, sleeping at home ? doing something , Not an excuse,

All these days I was doing things which made me busy and made me stay away from the blogsphere. But all these days I have realized many things and got to learn many things and observe mnay things out of all this I have got many questions to which I was able to find many answers
And all this made me realize how important I am to myself and how should I make the best out of life and how to give the best to the people hers around me and how to make the journey a life a healthy and happy one so when I go from this planet I shoud go without any regrets .

And this thinking led many thought s into me and because of this these days i have been speaking to myself and spending time to analyse and think about myself, analysing the situations that happening around , getting to know people around me ,etc...
And my thoughts have started to emerge in many ways and at a certain point started to compare myself with the past and present and future

And what are we getting thinking about the past , future and present and what are we losing here

Contd……….

happy new year

Dear friends
Wish you all a very happy 2010.
In welcoming 2010 I would like say something about 2009 and then say about my resolutions of 2010 [:)]
So first saying something about 2009 this year was a mixture of many things but got to learn so many things in life , got ot see good and bad but had a balance of everything, got to spend some good time with my parents , then took out some time to do something for myself by making a path to my carrier
Towards the end of the year .
And in the end of december got to see many things issues healthy wise and which have made my husband take a decision to join for some yoga classes .
And my dh has thought of a unique way of ending this year and celebrating the new year 2010 with a new beginning and giving a new meaning to self so we thought of going to a ashram called ART OF LIVING so we joined for the basic course and got to spend 4 days in the ashram and start this year with a new beginning and a unique way which we have never done so far

So started this year with a good beginning where I took break for myself and where I could learn yoaga , in addition to the meditation sessions and service activities, I also goto have interactions with several luminaries from different disciplines.

All these experiences led me to decide a unique path in my life and which made me to decide many exciting plans for this year .
In one way I can say this year resolution would be looking at the aspect of life in a positive way and hopefully have a distinct look as well in the way of thinking

Anyways would like to wind up as of now with a positive ray and See you soon on this space

Wish u all a very happy and proseperous new year ….

PERCEPTION

Many things happen in life and these things sometimes leave a mark upon us.
But sometimes we just ignore them and at times we learn from the love of those around us who care about our well being and also from the people who hate us.
In some cases we learn or get to understand things deeper when we feel the pain or experience our share of pain
These things not only light us to the facts but also strengthen us on certain things in a much better way to live a fruitful life and to move forward in life accepting the things and taking the right decisions.
Without neither pain nor experiencing these facts I would have never understood many facts of life nor would have thought about certain things in a better way or dealt them in an efficient way.
I always believed that many things happen in every moment of life and that
Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good or bad luck.

Good and bad is only on the perception of our thinking. Today it might be bad but someday we may realize the good in it.
Life is nothing but a path where we have to enjoy the fruits of happiness and sadness. If life would go smooth we would never experience the facts happened nor know the truth of happiness. So at times there should be certain events taking place where the things make us count the day.
And the real ideology comes in where we try to appreciate every moment and accept them as it comes as there is always something there in it to be learnt as you may never be able to experience once that phase is gone

Before reaching a conclusion we should always analyze the things and this should be done not in an individual perception. We have to accept the things as they come and try to make each moment fruitful and worthful and in such a way that we can hold on our head up because we have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you either.
We can make out of our life anything as we wish. So we have to create our own life and then go out and live it.

Restleness mind

Why is mind restless ?

The mind is often restless with happenings of our past and future
At any point the restless mind thinking about past is regret and thinking about future is anxiety. And both the things can effect the present.

Rarely a person is at peace with his or her past. The restless mind lets thoughts come and go incessantly from morning till night and most of them give us sleepless nights. The mind gets thoughts directly from the surrounding people there is always one situation which entitles us to think which makes mind full of thoughts, which we constantly pick, let pass through our minds, and then pick up new one and the cycle goes on.

At times even though our body is tired, but our mind is still wide awake which leads restless mind ,as these thoughts occupies our attention all the time and so on.
Most of the constant thoughts would be about our upcoming goals to accomplish before the end of the year, fulfilling dreams. How can we save the money we'll need? Can I adjust and live with my partner, in-laws? What will affect our relationship? Or Issues that happened in the past .

We pay a lot of energy and attention to these passing thoughts. Most of them are not important. They just waste our time and energy.

There is a situation for a person of having the ability to change or divert and to handle all the situations .Past cannot be changed only thing can be done is to learn something from it. So a positive thought will let u can handle our present and future in a better way

Our past can ruin our future if we let it."

A thought can make our life, a thought can take the life,
and a positive thought can turn our dreams into real,
our thought has the power to create our world.
Free your mind and you will see,
Life can be as beautiful , just as you want it to be,
Leave the past and let the present and future be memorable,
Live as if there is no tomorrow as we never know what is hidden in the next moment

ART OF YAWNING

why do we yawn?
Today i just finished all my household chores and was just sitting idle and happen to speak to my friend and allof she yawned and it immediately made me yawn and it just made me think what makes us yawn and all of sudden i started yawning frquently,
I didnt understand why I was yawning so freqently now???????. It got me wondered why do we yawn?

In Wikipedia, it says that yawning is associated with tiredness, stress, overwork, lack of stimulation, or boredom.
The long answer is that no one really knows, but there are plenty of interesting theories.
The idea that we yawn is to get rid of carbon dioxide and take in more oxygen has been disproved by research, but persists as the “common wisdom” answer. According to this theory, people breathe more slowly when they’re bored or tired and less oxygen gets to the lungs. As CO2 builds up in the blood, the brain reflexively prompts a deep, oxygen-rich breath.

While yawns are still largely a mystery, here are some things we know for certain:
• The average yawn lasts about six seconds.
• In humans, the earliest occurrence of a yawn happens about 11 weeks after conception – while we’re still in the womb.
• Your heart rate can rise as much as 30% during a yawn.
• 55% of people will yawn within five minutes of seeing someone else yawn.
• Blind people yawn more after hearing an audio tape of people yawning.
• Reading or even thinking about yawning can cause you to yawn.
• While writing this , I yawned several times .

VALENTINES DAY

VALENTINES DAY

Today is Hearts Day.. HAPPY VALENTINE's DAY to everybody!
Yeah! It's Valentines day and everybody might be busy planning gifts, dinners, what not to surprise our dear ones !! I donno ...
What is he? The most wonderful husband because he is....
if i put down my pen to write they are endless things which i admire about him
i can just say that he is the one who makes my day .[:)]

Here's a Valentine Quote to inspire your day.

I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person.
Love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you."
Being in love is a wonderful state to be in, and protecting, and nurturing that love needs careful consideration. Love is fragile and tender, and needs nourishment to blossom and grow.

To be taken for granted in the name of love, is not love, but a neglect of loyalty, and duty, and if left untreated, love can wither and decline.

ATTITUDE

A little boy went into a drug store, reached for a soda carton and ask him for a Phone Call.

Shop-owner replied Sweety this is not a STD, but you can do one call.
The store-owner observed and listened to the
conversation:
The boy asked, "Lady, Can you give me the job of cutting your lawn?
The woman replied, "I already have someone to cut my lawn."
"Lady, I will cut your lawn for half the price of the person who cuts your lawn now." replied boy.
The woman responded that she was very satisfied with the person who was
presently cutting her lawn.
The little boy found more perseverance and offered, "Lady, I'll even sweep
your curb and your sidewalk, so on Sunday you will have the prettiest lawn
in all of North-Palm beach, Florida."
Again the woman answered in the negative.
With a smile on his face, the little boy replaced the receiver.
The store-owner, who was listening to all this, walked over to the boy and
said," Son... I like your attitude; I like that positive spirit and would
like to offer you a job."
The little boy replied, "No thanks, I was just checking my performance with
the job I already have. I am the one who is working for that
lady, I was talking to!"
_________________

YOUR ATTITUDE CREATES AN ATMOSPHERE AROUND YOU,YOUR ATTITUDE IS THE RESULT OF WHAT U THINK AND FEEL, CRETAE A PATTITUDE WITH POSITVE THINKING AND GOOD FEELINGS AND YOU CAN JUST SEE WONDERS IN EVERY SITUATION YOU FACE

MUSIC THERAPHY

Can music theraphy help us in leading a healthy life?
Yes it helps in curing many alignments such as hyperstension, depression , asthama, anger and even Cancer and many more ……..
I have read and interesting article how music theraphy is being used in curing many diseases . http://carnaticindia.com/therapy.html
Music theraphy also helps in overcoming the stress .
Music can play an effective role in helping us lead better, fruitful lives. Listening to specific kinds of music at specific times of the day has been shown to be helpful in maintaining good health. Indian music, with its many Ragas, is known to be particularly therapeutic value. The curative power of music emanates from the resonance of certain ragas on hormonal and glandular functions which produce secretions that keep the body balanced and infection free.
To quote a few
Ahir Bhairav Indigestion,Rheumatic Arthritis,Hypertension
Asavari to build confidence
Basant Bahar Gall Stones (Cholecystitis)
Bhairavi Rheumatic Arthritis,Sinusitis,encourages detachment
Bhim palas Anxity, Hypertension
Brindabani Sarang Depression
Darbari Kanada Headache,Asthama
Deepak Indigestion,Hyperacidity ,Gall Stones(Cholecystitis)
Gujari Todi Cough
Jaijawanti Rheumatic Arthritis ,Diarrhoea,Headache
Kafi Sleep disorders
Kausi Kanada Hypertension ,common Cold
Kedar Headache ,Common Cold ,Cough,Asthma
Khamaj Sleep disorders
hyam Kalyan Cough,Asthma
Sohani Headache
Yaman Rheumatic Arthritis
simple iterative musical rhythms with low pitched swaras, as in bhajans are capable of relaxation, as observed with thelevels of the brain waves. They may also lead to favourable hormonal changes in the system

Travel To Ancient Temple

Last month I have undergone many circumstances which made me learn many things I n my life
But also left a mark on me.
One of them is our culture, the rituals and our heritage.
I happen to visit my in-laws place in warangal and my husband also joined me by taking a week long holiday .
My husband never gets a chance to take such a long leave if at all he gets also he is given work from home option so there is no chance of going about so this time because of the recession we could go on a long holiday especially to those ancient temples .



Warangal is located in the Telangana region of the Indian state of Andhra Pradesh. Warangal is 145 km northeast of the state capital of Hyderabad. Warangal is well known for granite quarries (notably the black and brown varieties), grain market for rice, chilies, cotton, and tobacco. Warangal is often called the gateway to south India owing to its well connected routes and transport system with the rest of the country
Capital of the erstwhile Kakatiya Dynasty in the 12th century, Warangal was previously known as Orugallu

The whole city is carved out of a single rock. Monuments displaying the talent and craftsmanship of the people of the Kakatiya Dynasty still stand today.


First day we have been to a very ancient temple which was on a hill.
It happen to be Shiva temple where the Shiva lingam is so big
We happen to speak to the priest who told us about the history of the temple.


The Shiva lingam belongs to the days of Ramayana and the pratisthapana was done by Sri Hanuman himself before the war started between sri ram and ravana .
And the important thing is we can see some marks on the lingam as if someone has hit it with their hand and knees

Since our childhood we have been getting gifts from our parents,siblings and realtives.
but when it comes to our parents we always have a privelage of deciding our gifts,and they always try to give what we wished for.
In every part we wish for many things and at times we pray god to make our ,
wishes come true.
sometimes our wishes are fulfilled directly and sometimes indirectly
but at times we wont be able to see the indirect form out of anxiety
or curiosity as we always expect it to be in the form we wished for
and we feel that we havent got it .

But God will always bless his child with whatever the wished for in any form it is just a matter of time and how we acccept those blessings ,and sometimes he may give them in a different form or delay them only to make us the know value of our wish.

I have found a story which i would like to share

A young man was getting ready to graduate college.
For many months he had admired a beautiful sports car in a dealer's
showroom, and knowing his father could well afford it, he told
him that was all he wanted.

As Graduation Day approached, the young man awaited
signs that his father had purchased the car. Finally, on the
morning of his graduation his father called him into his private
study. His father told him how proud he was to have such a fine
son, and told him how much he loved him. He handed his son
a beautiful wrapped gift box.

Curious, but somewhat disappointed the young man
opened the box and found a lovely, leather-bound Bible.
Angrily, he raised his voice at his father and said,
"With all your money you give me a Bible?"
and stormed out of the house, leaving the holy book.

Many years passed and the young man was very successful in
business.
He had a beautiful home and wonderful family, but realized his
father was very old, and thought perhaps he should go to him. He
had not seen him since that graduation day. Before he could make
arrangements, he received a telegram telling him his father had
Passed away, and willed all of his possessions to his son. He
needed to come home immediately and take care things.

When he arrived at his father's house, sudden sadness and
regret filled his heart.

He began to search his father's important papers and
saw the still new Bible, just as he had left it years ago. With
tears, he opened the Bible and began to turn the pages. As he
read those words, a car key dropped from an envelope
taped behind the Bible.
It had a tag with the dealer's name, the same dealer who had the
sports car he had desired. On the tag was the date of his graduation,
and the words...PAID IN FULL.

How many times do we miss God's blessings because they are not
packed as we expected?

HAPPY NEW YEAR

wishing you ... that the coming year showers on you all that you ever wished for ,open up for you more opportunities, lead you onto the path of continued success, happiness and prosperity!
Warmest Wishes for the Year Ahead....May All Your Dreams and Aspirations come True...

Meaningof life

What is the true meaning of life ????


Life we all heard about this letters isn’t it ?

At times we might have thought about a meaning for it but many of us wouldn’t have defined it thoroughly!!

Many of us believe that life is nothing but a journey between birth and death….,
Or a voyage which is done to visit the earth for the sake of nothing for a few and for a few something to be done.

Different people have different versions to define the life or leading a life.

But one thing which is common in all of us is birth and death thou many things may vary between the beginning and ending of the life.

Do we live just because we are born and we have to lead this life?

Did we ever understand after all what do we need from life?

Money, love, peace, hatred, relations is this all or we aren’t clear about even of our goal in our life.

I believe that every human has some purpose in life. But does everyone acquire that goal at the end? Or it is something like we have climbed a mountain and later we feel that this is not something you really wanted to do in life, this might happen with most of us.


Because most of us in confusion state as we don’t know what d we need for ourselves.
Goals can be of two types.
infinite goals : human being is never satisfied with anything with whatever he gets in life he always needs more and once a goal is reached he thinks about a goal much better than the earlier one so there is no end for human goals .

In the other case once you reach the goals there is nothing left for you to achieve and the life becomes routine

And in the both cases when we try reach our goals we experience many things, a self satisfaction, happiness and many mixed feelings.
But after sometime or at times again we start questioning ourselves is this all what we want from life.


This mainly happens because our dreams and goals are always self centered or family centered. And here we never come out this so called circle which we frame around us so it is just like any other revolving object because where there is a start point the ,ending point is also the same. So we are just living in our own circle.


The true meaning and the self satisfaction or a unique happiness will come in our life when we come out of the circle and do something for the orphan who is alone in this world or the one who are old and lonely or helping the needy.



Doing something for others will give a unique happiness and satisfaction and apart from all that I feel at least we will be able to give some meaning to our own life.


Finally I want to say is make your life fruitful not only to you but to the people around you and your family.
Every moment we are nearing the death as life is uncertain so lets waste no more time in making a meaning for our life

Winston Churchill:
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give

Controlling Fallacy

Your in a deep pressure as the final date for submission of your project or goal eve is nearing but nothing is working and. So, you start talking to your team, telling them how to make things work faster, but which of course does no good and you're just beside yourself by the time you do get home.

When you come home and see everything is messed and feel it is a disaster.
Your spouse starts complaining about something, or keeps on asking you something or your unable to find the things handy as you find everything in the house is a mess and then you start to explode by shouting, getting angry etc...

And tomorrow is the same story. It seems that no matter how hard you try to get your spouse to do things the way you want them to, it never sticks—just like no matter how loudly you tell other team members how they should work , it never works.

When we can't control our environment, we try to control people. Controlling people never works
So what does work? Cooperating with your partner, negotiating with their ideas, understanding them, and working with it. The problem is, cooperating and working with others to get what you want takes a willingness many of us lack. Might be controlling works temporarily in short term but in long run it always fails


We always think that we are already hacked up with loads of work in the office so we don’t need to do anything at home. But we expect the thing s hold be done in right way

But what do we mean by right way??? It is the way what we expect the things to be done in your desired way
And getting things done is nothing but trying to control somebody, things can be done in many ways
Only thing to know is how they can be done the right way which has many options but by leaving your idea of right way (in your way).


You might be becoming red by hearing this and u start thinking that you’re wrong and your partner is right.
When somebody points out , our brain always start functioning saying that the person speaking is saying our partner is right isn’t it.


Now don’t deny that these thought have not risen within you …………….


Now sit together and discuss on how things have to be done and think that if everything is cleaned and set up well things will be handy and it creates a good atmosphere to live in.

So each of you makes a list of all the things to be done and compare it with each other and u finds most of the things similar.


Now don’t sort imposing orders by saying you do this and I will do this.

Rather ask what they want to do and how. These asking create a great impact on them.
Now, things won't necessarily get done "your way"—but they'll get done, and you'll find that your home environment comes gently under control, even when you can't control the people in it.

And these creates a pleasant atmosphere around you

20 QUESTIONS TAG

I am tagged by kalpana

RULE #1 People who have been tagged must write their answers on their blogs and replace any question that they dislike with a new question formulated by themselves.

Rule #2 Tag 6 people to do this quiz and those who are tagged cannot refuse. These people must state who they were tagged by and cannot tag the person whom they were tagged by, and continue this game by sending it to other people.

1. If your lover betrayed you, what’ll be your reaction? can never imagine it happen if so I will break down,get depressed and don’t know what will I end up doing .
But honestly speaking my love will never betray me

2. If you can have a dream come true, what would it be?
starting a own firm so that I can help people by giving employment ,Having my dream house with a small garden

3. Whose butt would you like to kick? hmmm I would like kick them who are lazy and cunning.
4. Why do you blog?
to share my thoughts

. 5. Will you fall in love with your best friend?
Not sure. It just depends on the situation which takes there.

6. Which is more blessed: Loving someone or being loved by someone.
being loved by someone.

7. How long do you intend to wait for someone you love? as long as he comes into love but well this question is too late as of now.

8. If you could root for one social cause what would it be
honesty,discipline,responsibility

9. What takes you down the fastest?
back biting,un faithfulness ,not being punctual

10. What resurrects you the fastest?
dad ,saibaba both of their thought

11. What’s your strength?
I am dedicated and punctual in whatever I do

12. What do you want to change in yourself?
my emotions,blind believing in others,sensitiviness

13. What kind of person do you think the person who tagged you is?
kalpana is a sweet ,wonderful person and its nice to know her

14. Would you rather be single and rich or married and poor?
Married

15. Whats the purpose of such Tags? Some tags help to know the Self, the better and some are purely for entertainment. As kalpana says

16. If you fall in love with two people simultaneously, who will you pick?
Is that possible?

17. Would you give all in a relationship?
for sure unless it doesn’t effect my self respect

18. Would you forgive and forget someone no matter how horrible a thing he has done? maximum I will try to forgive them if I can'tI will just avoid them in my life .

19. Do you prefer being single or in a relationship?
In a relationship.

20. Tag people.
smitha,narasimha

Communication

So when things have gone wrong
Make a new beginning again by commiting urselves together all again The truth is, both of you will have to work on this. It will not automatically be easy but it is possible. Start by forgiving each other, forgetting the past,. Focus only on the special things and learn to put important things on a side relearn to put the unimportant things aside. It will take some time so be patient.
1. Communication –
Communication is something we all know is necessary to keep any relationship strong and loving, and although we are aware of the importance of communication . we always be a back step when communicating with a partner
Communicate so that you will be able to understand yourself and your partner much better. There is nothing that keeps a relationship healthy better than understanding each other .

Its true that man and women have differences , but not that much as if we are from different planets if we think that we would end up being fools if we didn’t accept and recognize them .but actually we have more in common than w have different .If we embrace the things which a are common and accept what is different we get on a better than treating each other equal rather than as I we are separate .

So talk and listen to one another. figure out what your common interests are. You can share your feelings with the other person and trust that they will be there to listen and support you

By listening carefully and sharing your thoughts and feelings with another person, you show them that they are an important part of your life.
You need to work out together to understand the opposite to make your relation successful
Normal what happens when any problem arises .
People always tend to turn to their partner first when things are not running so smoothly in their relationship. We automatically start pointing out each other is doing or not doing, as well as how the opposite is not listening to you . This may all be true depending on the particular situation, but it is important that each take the responsibility in reviewing their own actions and communication first, before they point anything out at their .
Fact is that , it is very easy to see other people's mistakes, but when it comes to looking at self , it is much harder to accept criticism, even from yourself- because no one wants to be wrong. This is where you need to get real about things and working them out

So start talking with each other or discuss the events that are causing the challenges in your life. Talk about what can be done to improve the situation as well as the pros and cons to the solutions .
And about helping each other see things from each other's perspective, so that you can be on the edge and avoid any misunderstanding that will cause unneeded arguments.

Donts in a communication
Never try to talk to win the conversation.
Never try to perceive in making ur partner to see things in your way rather than sharing
Never talk about negative things of ur partner

Dos
Try to communicate as much as u can
Undesrtand each other well and try to see each other s positive side .
always be a good listener

Find common interests:If you don’t share each other’s interests or have nothing to talk about, you will be bored to death being together. Try to take a step forward to improvement of your relationships by changing the situation to uniting your interests. For example, one weekend you may do what your partner is interested in, and the next weekend you will do what is interesting for you. Don’t forget to talk. It is a good way to expand the interest area through the interests,