Controlling Fallacy

Your in a deep pressure as the final date for submission of your project or goal eve is nearing but nothing is working and. So, you start talking to your team, telling them how to make things work faster, but which of course does no good and you're just beside yourself by the time you do get home.

When you come home and see everything is messed and feel it is a disaster.
Your spouse starts complaining about something, or keeps on asking you something or your unable to find the things handy as you find everything in the house is a mess and then you start to explode by shouting, getting angry etc...

And tomorrow is the same story. It seems that no matter how hard you try to get your spouse to do things the way you want them to, it never sticks—just like no matter how loudly you tell other team members how they should work , it never works.

When we can't control our environment, we try to control people. Controlling people never works
So what does work? Cooperating with your partner, negotiating with their ideas, understanding them, and working with it. The problem is, cooperating and working with others to get what you want takes a willingness many of us lack. Might be controlling works temporarily in short term but in long run it always fails


We always think that we are already hacked up with loads of work in the office so we don’t need to do anything at home. But we expect the thing s hold be done in right way

But what do we mean by right way??? It is the way what we expect the things to be done in your desired way
And getting things done is nothing but trying to control somebody, things can be done in many ways
Only thing to know is how they can be done the right way which has many options but by leaving your idea of right way (in your way).


You might be becoming red by hearing this and u start thinking that you’re wrong and your partner is right.
When somebody points out , our brain always start functioning saying that the person speaking is saying our partner is right isn’t it.


Now don’t deny that these thought have not risen within you …………….


Now sit together and discuss on how things have to be done and think that if everything is cleaned and set up well things will be handy and it creates a good atmosphere to live in.

So each of you makes a list of all the things to be done and compare it with each other and u finds most of the things similar.


Now don’t sort imposing orders by saying you do this and I will do this.

Rather ask what they want to do and how. These asking create a great impact on them.
Now, things won't necessarily get done "your way"—but they'll get done, and you'll find that your home environment comes gently under control, even when you can't control the people in it.

And these creates a pleasant atmosphere around you