SVADHAYA

shh..surprise plan for DH

2011-02-12T11:55:00.000-08:00

Birthday and valentine day Surprise
Every year since I met my DH it's been the same routine gifts, cards, and flowers, for the birthday and the Valentines day which followed the next day ,it gets boring to give the same gifts everytime and even I intend to plan for it days a head i was not able to find anything different from the routine to give,So I intend to do something totally different or experimental this time
When the clock struck 12 in the midnight I decide that I will wish him and make him cut the store brought cake and in the day I would bake a cake for the first time and take him for a surprise dinner at SERENITY
And for the valentines day planned to just go on as normal through out the day and in the evening I have planned to cook his favourit meal and would arrange for a romantic candle light dinner and then end the day by giving the gift which was hidden for a while as I have been planning for it long
I hope he enjoys his birthday and Valentines gift this year, shhh it’s a secret please don’t tell..........

2011-01-09T05:24:00.000-08:00

Iam in the process of moving and setting up my career, so I'll be taking break from blogging until end of feb.
Hopefully I'll be able to resume back to blogging in march,

'Most beautiful month of my life' at AOL

2010-01-08T23:32:00.000-08:00

I would like to share my experience with all
About the Art of Living basic course which I did.
I and my dh planned to start this year in a unique way so we decided to go to AOL and join for the basic course part 1 so to start a new beginning of this year we decided to celebrate the 31 night at the ashram .Thanks to my hubby who made me to join him for this course.
"I came to the ashram for the first time and that was the most beautiful month of this year and a new beginning of my life where I got to have a unique experience .

The atmosphere and the energy of this ashram was very pleasant. And staying at the place was a unique experience as if staying in an entire different world .There are people from diverse backgrounds, yet there is a spirit of belongingness and so much positivistic,"

The course was just too good.
The course offers a simple and effective techniques for eliminating stress, resolving conflict, improving health and living life with new joy and enthusiasm

Out there in the course we are also taught a unique and ancient breathing technique known as "Sudarshan Kriya".

To start with I thought it would be some general breathing technique , same as pranyams but it was different from those which I know and which can be practiced daily within a minimal time and believe me the practice really nourishes our body and mind.

In fact when I started the course I was thinking it just to be a normal breathing technique and was taking the things light.
But when I really started doing it, I started knowing what it really meant. It leaves one so peaceful, have never experienced such Peace before. No thoughts to disturb you at all, absolutely no stress.
It is to be practiced for hardly 25 minutes a day. So powerful yet so simple.

The tutor explained us how it works.

The tutor said:

Normally we inhale just 30 % of our lung capacity, but By using this technique one can inhale up to 100% of One’s lung capacity.

The secret is: when oxygen is
Inhaled in the proper amount, it oxygenates each and
Every cell of your body, thus removing negative toxins
Off your body. Also the rhythms of breath using this
Technique is such that it inserts in you the natural
Rhythm of breath as required by humans for a peaceful
Day.
The fact is:
When one is depressed the natural pattern of breath in oneself is disturbed i.e. one tends to breath with Shorter breaths, and when happy, longer breaths .This
Technique inserts the right patterns of breath in U again.

Exploring this technique we get to know how it benefits ones body.

Thanks to it, now I feel more optimistic, balanced and ready for anything in life.
It has made me go deep within my faith and now I feel so safe and beautiful from within

journey of self realisation

2010-01-07T03:56:00.000-08:00

Self realization is the process by which any human being can realize his real self. And what does this real self mean?

Self realization can be defined simply by saying that a person who believes that body and, soul are entirely two different things, is on the path of self realization. Self or the Soul is real whereas Physical body is relative or unreal.

The Self-realization technique is based on a living experience, the origin of which resides within us. It allows us to gain access to a state of consciousness which is beyond thinking or emotion. This state of thoughtless awareness is within our self and begins purifying our mind, body and soul

Self-Realization can be considered the art of knowing who you are and how u are ?
Reaching the stage of self realization just cannot be expressed in words. Self realization has to be only experienced.
we reach the stage of self realization we need to gain absolute control over the senses and the mind.self-realization has to be integrated in our life, in a balanced and aware way, then your starting point begins with our human patterning; of our emotions, feelings, thoughts, actions, intentions and our words.
To realize the self in the right way it takes time, and in the journey of this we need to focus on many things like patience, discipline, commitment, emotions these all will present us with many challenges and obstacles which leads reaching the awareness which are to be part of our self.We have to get over the negative Senses like Ego, Anger, Greed, and Jealousy in order to regain self.
One can ask why we should we know self realization……….
Firstly, knowing the depths of mind and self, will get relived of the daily life of stress at that level, one solves the greatest riddles of life and always invents a new path towards solving any problem. That state of bliss can only prepare the mind to open new vistas of knowledge.

In this stage we can fulfill our life with happiness and also spread it around us
Self Realization will occur within each human being. Then an inner transformation takes place by which one becomes moral, united, integrated and feel balanced. We overcome Anger, regret, grievances, anxiety, guilt, ego, jealousy. And simultaneously when we no longer create suffering for our self, we no longer create suffering for others. Now we enjoy life to the maximum, not only with other human beings, but also with nature and all life forms... In other words, everywhere we encounter our self.

Just when I think I have learned the way to live, life changes

...................... realisation

2010-01-06T01:09:00.000-08:00

...to the Blogosphere! Where was I?what I was doing all these days ? Travelling?, sleeping at home ? doing something , Not an excuse,

All these days I was doing things which made me busy and made me stay away from the blogsphere. But all these days I have realized many things and got to learn many things and observe mnay things out of all this I have got many questions to which I was able to find many answers
And all this made me realize how important I am to myself and how should I make the best out of life and how to give the best to the people hers around me and how to make the journey a life a healthy and happy one so when I go from this planet I shoud go without any regrets .

And this thinking led many thought s into me and because of this these days i have been speaking to myself and spending time to analyse and think about myself, analysing the situations that happening around , getting to know people around me ,etc...
And my thoughts have started to emerge in many ways and at a certain point started to compare myself with the past and present and future

And what are we getting thinking about the past , future and present and what are we losing here

Contd……….

happy new year

2010-01-01T01:55:00.000-08:00

Dear friends
Wish you all a very happy 2010.
In welcoming 2010 I would like say something about 2009 and then say about my resolutions of 2010 [:)]
So first saying something about 2009 this year was a mixture of many things but got to learn so many things in life , got ot see good and bad but had a balance of everything, got to spend some good time with my parents , then took out some time to do something for myself by making a path to my carrier
Towards the end of the year .
And in the end of december got to see many things issues healthy wise and which have made my husband take a decision to join for some yoga classes .
And my dh has thought of a unique way of ending this year and celebrating the new year 2010 with a new beginning and giving a new meaning to self so we thought of going to a ashram called ART OF LIVING so we joined for the basic course and got to spend 4 days in the ashram and start this year with a new beginning and a unique way which we have never done so far

So started this year with a good beginning where I took break for myself and where I could learn yoaga , in addition to the meditation sessions and service activities, I also goto have interactions with several luminaries from different disciplines.

All these experiences led me to decide a unique path in my life and which made me to decide many exciting plans for this year .
In one way I can say this year resolution would be looking at the aspect of life in a positive way and hopefully have a distinct look as well in the way of thinking

Anyways would like to wind up as of now with a positive ray and See you soon on this space

Wish u all a very happy and proseperous new year ….

PERCEPTION

2009-11-12T06:15:00.000-08:00

Many things happen in life and these things sometimes leave a mark upon us.
But sometimes we just ignore them and at times we learn from the love of those around us who care about our well being and also from the people who hate us.
In some cases we learn or get to understand things deeper when we feel the pain or experience our share of pain
These things not only light us to the facts but also strengthen us on certain things in a much better way to live a fruitful life and to move forward in life accepting the things and taking the right decisions.
Without neither pain nor experiencing these facts I would have never understood many facts of life nor would have thought about certain things in a better way or dealt them in an efficient way.
I always believed that many things happen in every moment of life and that
Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or by means of good or bad luck.

Good and bad is only on the perception of our thinking. Today it might be bad but someday we may realize the good in it.
Life is nothing but a path where we have to enjoy the fruits of happiness and sadness. If life would go smooth we would never experience the facts happened nor know the truth of happiness. So at times there should be certain events taking place where the things make us count the day.
And the real ideology comes in where we try to appreciate every moment and accept them as it comes as there is always something there in it to be learnt as you may never be able to experience once that phase is gone

Before reaching a conclusion we should always analyze the things and this should be done not in an individual perception. We have to accept the things as they come and try to make each moment fruitful and worthful and in such a way that we can hold on our head up because we have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you either.
We can make out of our life anything as we wish. So we have to create our own life and then go out and live it.

Restleness mind

2009-09-16T02:51:00.000-07:00

Why is mind restless ?

The mind is often restless with happenings of our past and future
At any point the restless mind thinking about past is regret and thinking about future is anxiety. And both the things can effect the present.

Rarely a person is at peace with his or her past. The restless mind lets thoughts come and go incessantly from morning till night and most of them give us sleepless nights. The mind gets thoughts directly from the surrounding people there is always one situation which entitles us to think which makes mind full of thoughts, which we constantly pick, let pass through our minds, and then pick up new one and the cycle goes on.

At times even though our body is tired, but our mind is still wide awake which leads restless mind ,as these thoughts occupies our attention all the time and so on.
Most of the constant thoughts would be about our upcoming goals to accomplish before the end of the year, fulfilling dreams. How can we save the money we'll need? Can I adjust and live with my partner, in-laws? What will affect our relationship? Or Issues that happened in the past .

We pay a lot of energy and attention to these passing thoughts. Most of them are not important. They just waste our time and energy.

There is a situation for a person of having the ability to change or divert and to handle all the situations .Past cannot be changed only thing can be done is to learn something from it. So a positive thought will let u can handle our present and future in a better way

Our past can ruin our future if we let it."

A thought can make our life, a thought can take the life,
and a positive thought can turn our dreams into real,
our thought has the power to create our world.
Free your mind and you will see,
Life can be as beautiful , just as you want it to be,
Leave the past and let the present and future be memorable,
Live as if there is no tomorrow as we never know what is hidden in the next moment

ART OF YAWNING

2009-02-17T02:42:00.000-08:00

why do we yawn?
Today i just finished all my household chores and was just sitting idle and happen to speak to my friend and allof she yawned and it immediately made me yawn and it just made me think what makes us yawn and all of sudden i started yawning frquently,
I didnt understand why I was yawning so freqently now???????. It got me wondered why do we yawn?

In Wikipedia, it says that yawning is associated with tiredness, stress, overwork, lack of stimulation, or boredom.
The long answer is that no one really knows, but there are plenty of interesting theories.
The idea that we yawn is to get rid of carbon dioxide and take in more oxygen has been disproved by research, but persists as the “common wisdom” answer. According to this theory, people breathe more slowly when they’re bored or tired and less oxygen gets to the lungs. As CO2 builds up in the blood, the brain reflexively prompts a deep, oxygen-rich breath.

While yawns are still largely a mystery, here are some things we know for certain:
• The average yawn lasts about six seconds.
• In humans, the earliest occurrence of a yawn happens about 11 weeks after conception – while we’re still in the womb.
• Your heart rate can rise as much as 30% during a yawn.
• 55% of people will yawn within five minutes of seeing someone else yawn.
• Blind people yawn more after hearing an audio tape of people yawning.
• Reading or even thinking about yawning can cause you to yawn.
• While writing this , I yawned several times .

VALENTINES DAY

2009-02-14T20:45:00.000-08:00

VALENTINES DAY

Today is Hearts Day.. HAPPY VALENTINE's DAY to everybody!
Yeah! It's Valentines day and everybody might be busy planning gifts, dinners, what not to surprise our dear ones !! I donno ...
What is he? The most wonderful husband because he is....
if i put down my pen to write they are endless things which i admire about him
i can just say that he is the one who makes my day .[:)]

Here's a Valentine Quote to inspire your day.

I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person.
Love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you."
Being in love is a wonderful state to be in, and protecting, and nurturing that love needs careful consideration. Love is fragile and tender, and needs nourishment to blossom and grow.

To be taken for granted in the name of love, is not love, but a neglect of loyalty, and duty, and if left untreated, love can wither and decline.

ATTITUDE

2009-02-13T20:11:00.000-08:00

A little boy went into a drug store, reached for a soda carton and ask him for a Phone Call.

Shop-owner replied Sweety this is not a STD, but you can do one call.
The store-owner observed and listened to the
conversation:
The boy asked, "Lady, Can you give me the job of cutting your lawn?
The woman replied, "I already have someone to cut my lawn."
"Lady, I will cut your lawn for half the price of the person who cuts your lawn now." replied boy.
The woman responded that she was very satisfied with the person who was
presently cutting her lawn.
The little boy found more perseverance and offered, "Lady, I'll even sweep
your curb and your sidewalk, so on Sunday you will have the prettiest lawn
in all of North-Palm beach, Florida."
Again the woman answered in the negative.
With a smile on his face, the little boy replaced the receiver.
The store-owner, who was listening to all this, walked over to the boy and
said," Son... I like your attitude; I like that positive spirit and would
like to offer you a job."
The little boy replied, "No thanks, I was just checking my performance with
the job I already have. I am the one who is working for that
lady, I was talking to!"
_________________

YOUR ATTITUDE CREATES AN ATMOSPHERE AROUND YOU,YOUR ATTITUDE IS THE RESULT OF WHAT U THINK AND FEEL, CRETAE A PATTITUDE WITH POSITVE THINKING AND GOOD FEELINGS AND YOU CAN JUST SEE WONDERS IN EVERY SITUATION YOU FACE

MUSIC THERAPHY

2009-02-10T06:47:00.000-08:00

Can music theraphy help us in leading a healthy life?
Yes it helps in curing many alignments such as hyperstension, depression , asthama, anger and even Cancer and many more ……..
I have read and interesting article how music theraphy is being used in curing many diseases . http://carnaticindia.com/therapy.html
Music theraphy also helps in overcoming the stress .
Music can play an effective role in helping us lead better, fruitful lives. Listening to specific kinds of music at specific times of the day has been shown to be helpful in maintaining good health. Indian music, with its many Ragas, is known to be particularly therapeutic value. The curative power of music emanates from the resonance of certain ragas on hormonal and glandular functions which produce secretions that keep the body balanced and infection free.
To quote a few
Ahir Bhairav Indigestion,Rheumatic Arthritis,Hypertension
Asavari to build confidence
Basant Bahar Gall Stones (Cholecystitis)
Bhairavi Rheumatic Arthritis,Sinusitis,encourages detachment
Bhim palas Anxity, Hypertension
Brindabani Sarang Depression
Darbari Kanada Headache,Asthama
Deepak Indigestion,Hyperacidity ,Gall Stones(Cholecystitis)
Gujari Todi Cough
Jaijawanti Rheumatic Arthritis ,Diarrhoea,Headache
Kafi Sleep disorders
Kausi Kanada Hypertension ,common Cold
Kedar Headache ,Common Cold ,Cough,Asthma
Khamaj Sleep disorders
hyam Kalyan Cough,Asthma
Sohani Headache
Yaman Rheumatic Arthritis
simple iterative musical rhythms with low pitched swaras, as in bhajans are capable of relaxation, as observed with thelevels of the brain waves. They may also lead to favourable hormonal changes in the system

Travel To Ancient Temple

2009-02-04T22:33:00.001-08:00

Last month I have undergone many circumstances which made me learn many things I n my life
But also left a mark on me.
One of them is our culture, the rituals and our heritage.
I happen to visit my in-laws place in warangal and my husband also joined me by taking a week long holiday .
My husband never gets a chance to take such a long leave if at all he gets also he is given work from home option so there is no chance of going about so this time because of the recession we could go on a long holiday especially to those ancient temples .

Warangal is located in the Telangana region of the Indian state of Andhra Pradesh. Warangal is 145 km northeast of the state capital of Hyderabad. Warangal is well known for granite quarries (notably the black and brown varieties), grain market for rice, chilies, cotton, and tobacco. Warangal is often called the gateway to south India owing to its well connected routes and transport system with the rest of the country
Capital of the erstwhile Kakatiya Dynasty in the 12th century, Warangal was previously known as Orugallu

The whole city is carved out of a single rock. Monuments displaying the talent and craftsmanship of the people of the Kakatiya Dynasty still stand today.

First day we have been to a very ancient temple which was on a hill.
It happen to be Shiva temple where the Shiva lingam is so big
We happen to speak to the priest who told us about the history of the temple.

The Shiva lingam belongs to the days of Ramayana and the pratisthapana was done by Sri Hanuman himself before the war started between sri ram and ravana .
And the important thing is we can see some marks on the lingam as if someone has hit it with their hand and knees

2009-01-01T00:45:00.000-08:00

Since our childhood we have been getting gifts from our parents,siblings and realtives.
but when it comes to our parents we always have a privelage of deciding our gifts,and they always try to give what we wished for.
In every part we wish for many things and at times we pray god to make our ,
wishes come true.
sometimes our wishes are fulfilled directly and sometimes indirectly
but at times we wont be able to see the indirect form out of anxiety
or curiosity as we always expect it to be in the form we wished for
and we feel that we havent got it .

But God will always bless his child with whatever the wished for in any form it is just a matter of time and how we acccept those blessings ,and sometimes he may give them in a different form or delay them only to make us the know value of our wish.

I have found a story which i would like to share

A young man was getting ready to graduate college.
For many months he had admired a beautiful sports car in a dealer's
showroom, and knowing his father could well afford it, he told
him that was all he wanted.

As Graduation Day approached, the young man awaited
signs that his father had purchased the car. Finally, on the
morning of his graduation his father called him into his private
study. His father told him how proud he was to have such a fine
son, and told him how much he loved him. He handed his son
a beautiful wrapped gift box.

Curious, but somewhat disappointed the young man
opened the box and found a lovely, leather-bound Bible.
Angrily, he raised his voice at his father and said,
"With all your money you give me a Bible?"
and stormed out of the house, leaving the holy book.

Many years passed and the young man was very successful in
business.
He had a beautiful home and wonderful family, but realized his
father was very old, and thought perhaps he should go to him. He
had not seen him since that graduation day. Before he could make
arrangements, he received a telegram telling him his father had
Passed away, and willed all of his possessions to his son. He
needed to come home immediately and take care things.

When he arrived at his father's house, sudden sadness and
regret filled his heart.

He began to search his father's important papers and
saw the still new Bible, just as he had left it years ago. With
tears, he opened the Bible and began to turn the pages. As he
read those words, a car key dropped from an envelope
taped behind the Bible.
It had a tag with the dealer's name, the same dealer who had the
sports car he had desired. On the tag was the date of his graduation,
and the words...PAID IN FULL.

How many times do we miss God's blessings because they are not
packed as we expected?

HAPPY NEW YEAR

2008-12-31T23:46:00.000-08:00

wishing you ... that the coming year showers on you all that you ever wished for ,open up for you more opportunities, lead you onto the path of continued success, happiness and prosperity!
Warmest Wishes for the Year Ahead....May All Your Dreams and Aspirations come True...

Meaningof life

2008-12-15T06:06:00.000-08:00

What is the true meaning of life ????

Life we all heard about this letters isn’t it ?

At times we might have thought about a meaning for it but many of us wouldn’t have defined it thoroughly!!

Many of us believe that life is nothing but a journey between birth and death….,
Or a voyage which is done to visit the earth for the sake of nothing for a few and for a few something to be done.

Different people have different versions to define the life or leading a life.

But one thing which is common in all of us is birth and death thou many things may vary between the beginning and ending of the life.

Do we live just because we are born and we have to lead this life?

Did we ever understand after all what do we need from life?

Money, love, peace, hatred, relations is this all or we aren’t clear about even of our goal in our life.

I believe that every human has some purpose in life. But does everyone acquire that goal at the end? Or it is something like we have climbed a mountain and later we feel that this is not something you really wanted to do in life, this might happen with most of us.

Because most of us in confusion state as we don’t know what d we need for ourselves.
Goals can be of two types.
infinite goals : human being is never satisfied with anything with whatever he gets in life he always needs more and once a goal is reached he thinks about a goal much better than the earlier one so there is no end for human goals .

In the other case once you reach the goals there is nothing left for you to achieve and the life becomes routine

And in the both cases when we try reach our goals we experience many things, a self satisfaction, happiness and many mixed feelings.
But after sometime or at times again we start questioning ourselves is this all what we want from life.

This mainly happens because our dreams and goals are always self centered or family centered. And here we never come out this so called circle which we frame around us so it is just like any other revolving object because where there is a start point the ,ending point is also the same. So we are just living in our own circle.

The true meaning and the self satisfaction or a unique happiness will come in our life when we come out of the circle and do something for the orphan who is alone in this world or the one who are old and lonely or helping the needy.

Doing something for others will give a unique happiness and satisfaction and apart from all that I feel at least we will be able to give some meaning to our own life.

Finally I want to say is make your life fruitful not only to you but to the people around you and your family.
Every moment we are nearing the death as life is uncertain so lets waste no more time in making a meaning for our life

Winston Churchill:
We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give

Controlling Fallacy

2008-10-23T22:57:00.000-07:00

Your in a deep pressure as the final date for submission of your project or goal eve is nearing but nothing is working and. So, you start talking to your team, telling them how to make things work faster, but which of course does no good and you're just beside yourself by the time you do get home.

When you come home and see everything is messed and feel it is a disaster.
Your spouse starts complaining about something, or keeps on asking you something or your unable to find the things handy as you find everything in the house is a mess and then you start to explode by shouting, getting angry etc...

And tomorrow is the same story. It seems that no matter how hard you try to get your spouse to do things the way you want them to, it never sticks—just like no matter how loudly you tell other team members how they should work , it never works.

When we can't control our environment, we try to control people. Controlling people never works
So what does work? Cooperating with your partner, negotiating with their ideas, understanding them, and working with it. The problem is, cooperating and working with others to get what you want takes a willingness many of us lack. Might be controlling works temporarily in short term but in long run it always fails

We always think that we are already hacked up with loads of work in the office so we don’t need to do anything at home. But we expect the thing s hold be done in right way

But what do we mean by right way??? It is the way what we expect the things to be done in your desired way
And getting things done is nothing but trying to control somebody, things can be done in many ways
Only thing to know is how they can be done the right way which has many options but by leaving your idea of right way (in your way).

You might be becoming red by hearing this and u start thinking that you’re wrong and your partner is right.
When somebody points out , our brain always start functioning saying that the person speaking is saying our partner is right isn’t it.

Now don’t deny that these thought have not risen within you …………….

Now sit together and discuss on how things have to be done and think that if everything is cleaned and set up well things will be handy and it creates a good atmosphere to live in.

So each of you makes a list of all the things to be done and compare it with each other and u finds most of the things similar.

Now don’t sort imposing orders by saying you do this and I will do this.

Rather ask what they want to do and how. These asking create a great impact on them.
Now, things won't necessarily get done "your way"—but they'll get done, and you'll find that your home environment comes gently under control, even when you can't control the people in it.

And these creates a pleasant atmosphere around you

20 QUESTIONS TAG

2008-10-17T08:35:00.004-07:00

I am tagged by kalpana

RULE #1 People who have been tagged must write their answers on their blogs and replace any question that they dislike with a new question formulated by themselves.

Rule #2 Tag 6 people to do this quiz and those who are tagged cannot refuse. These people must state who they were tagged by and cannot tag the person whom they were tagged by, and continue this game by sending it to other people.

1. If your lover betrayed you, what’ll be your reaction? can never imagine it happen if so I will break down,get depressed and don’t know what will I end up doing .
But honestly speaking my love will never betray me

2. If you can have a dream come true, what would it be?
starting a own firm so that I can help people by giving employment ,Having my dream house with a small garden

3. Whose butt would you like to kick? hmmm I would like kick them who are lazy and cunning.
4. Why do you blog?
to share my thoughts

. 5. Will you fall in love with your best friend?
Not sure. It just depends on the situation which takes there.

6. Which is more blessed: Loving someone or being loved by someone.
being loved by someone.

7. How long do you intend to wait for someone you love? as long as he comes into love but well this question is too late as of now.

8. If you could root for one social cause what would it be
honesty,discipline,responsibility

9. What takes you down the fastest?
back biting,un faithfulness ,not being punctual

10. What resurrects you the fastest?
dad ,saibaba both of their thought

11. What’s your strength?
I am dedicated and punctual in whatever I do

12. What do you want to change in yourself?
my emotions,blind believing in others,sensitiviness

13. What kind of person do you think the person who tagged you is?
kalpana is a sweet ,wonderful person and its nice to know her

14. Would you rather be single and rich or married and poor?
Married

15. Whats the purpose of such Tags? Some tags help to know the Self, the better and some are purely for entertainment. As kalpana says

16. If you fall in love with two people simultaneously, who will you pick?
Is that possible?

17. Would you give all in a relationship?
for sure unless it doesn’t effect my self respect

18. Would you forgive and forget someone no matter how horrible a thing he has done? maximum I will try to forgive them if I can'tI will just avoid them in my life .

19. Do you prefer being single or in a relationship?
In a relationship.

20. Tag people.
smitha,narasimha

Communication

2008-10-15T23:51:00.000-07:00

So when things have gone wrong
Make a new beginning again by commiting urselves together all again The truth is, both of you will have to work on this. It will not automatically be easy but it is possible. Start by forgiving each other, forgetting the past,. Focus only on the special things and learn to put important things on a side relearn to put the unimportant things aside. It will take some time so be patient.
1. Communication –
Communication is something we all know is necessary to keep any relationship strong and loving, and although we are aware of the importance of communication . we always be a back step when communicating with a partner
Communicate so that you will be able to understand yourself and your partner much better. There is nothing that keeps a relationship healthy better than understanding each other .

Its true that man and women have differences , but not that much as if we are from different planets if we think that we would end up being fools if we didn’t accept and recognize them .but actually we have more in common than w have different .If we embrace the things which a are common and accept what is different we get on a better than treating each other equal rather than as I we are separate .

So talk and listen to one another. figure out what your common interests are. You can share your feelings with the other person and trust that they will be there to listen and support you

By listening carefully and sharing your thoughts and feelings with another person, you show them that they are an important part of your life.
You need to work out together to understand the opposite to make your relation successful
Normal what happens when any problem arises .
People always tend to turn to their partner first when things are not running so smoothly in their relationship. We automatically start pointing out each other is doing or not doing, as well as how the opposite is not listening to you . This may all be true depending on the particular situation, but it is important that each take the responsibility in reviewing their own actions and communication first, before they point anything out at their .
Fact is that , it is very easy to see other people's mistakes, but when it comes to looking at self , it is much harder to accept criticism, even from yourself- because no one wants to be wrong. This is where you need to get real about things and working them out

So start talking with each other or discuss the events that are causing the challenges in your life. Talk about what can be done to improve the situation as well as the pros and cons to the solutions .
And about helping each other see things from each other's perspective, so that you can be on the edge and avoid any misunderstanding that will cause unneeded arguments.

Donts in a communication
Never try to talk to win the conversation.
Never try to perceive in making ur partner to see things in your way rather than sharing
Never talk about negative things of ur partner

Dos
Try to communicate as much as u can
Undesrtand each other well and try to see each other s positive side .
always be a good listener

Find common interests:If you don’t share each other’s interests or have nothing to talk about, you will be bored to death being together. Try to take a step forward to improvement of your relationships by changing the situation to uniting your interests. For example, one weekend you may do what your partner is interested in, and the next weekend you will do what is interesting for you. Don’t forget to talk. It is a good way to expand the interest area through the interests,

Relationships

2008-10-15T02:51:00.000-07:00

Relationships

Relations are many types some of them are formed when we are born and some we make

We will b able to maintain the relations with our brother ,sisters ad parents
However big the problem is we always ignore it and always be their side
But when it comes to marriage relation the same doesn’t happen we always see things in other way
All of a sudden many changes keep coming once a person is married . why ?

Marriages are made in heaven, so goes the saying. It’s just the beginning of a new phase in one’s life when the couple start their journey of togetherness for the rest of their life .

Marriage is like being in a institution where we get to learn something or other at every moment of the married life ,the relationship is challenging yet a good experience for the couples.

Marriage doesn’t not imply having fun or making happy all the way ,it implies accepting the responmibilities that come along with the martial bond,
The key to a happy and healthy marriage involes developing your relationship with your partner and knowing each other well enough to understand how to share life together.

We all need to love and to be loved and most of us want the comfort of the relationships but relations are like enormous area which not only contain comforts but problems also ..
The best things in life depend on our ability to create and maintain great relationships. Success, happiness, and the ability to give and receive love all hinge on our relationships. Most of us do a good job with relationships at the beginning .
But why do we so often stumble down the road as days go on ?
Every relationship has its ups and downs, but there are ways to stay on the right track even when the "downs" are hovering around you. Unfortunately so we find ourselves working against each other when times are tough
The anger that arises during these spats commonly lead to other problems such as complete communication break downs, adulterous affairs, and even verbal; emotional; or physical abuse by one or the other, or even both partners. This can be extremely difficult to any relationship, and even worse if there are young witnesses watching their parents go through such trying times.
when the relation is smooth everything looks beautiful but when problems pouring in the difficulties start coming in
These is the crucial time when both have to set some rules for themselves to overcome their problems and to have a smooth going on.
Holding one another rather than pushing each other away and making it all worse.
some steps which can make a relationship healhy are.........

heart touching real incidient

2008-10-14T04:33:00.000-07:00

Only because of people like them, the world is still alive.....a heart touching real life incident...
Chennai : 25th Sep 2008
1st photo : Jithenthran...2nd photo is his father and mother...3rd photo: The doctor didn't even remove the face mask and head cover and coming running right from the operation theatre

The thing is.... there is a family. Parents are doctors...and they had a son named jithenthran.
On 09/24/2008, he took his father's bike for seeing his friend and while return he met with an accident.
The people who are there know him and admitted him at chengelpattu hospital. Then they informed his parents and they took him to Teynampet Apollo hospital.
There the doctors examined him and said that his brain has lost all his senses and there is no way to give him life. Without controlling the sadness the parents understood the fact and they decided to donate his organs to the people.
First, his eyes were given to Sankara nethralaya, then his kidney was given to Apollo hospital for transplantation and atlast here comes the final everheard miracle. They decided to give his heart to a 6 year old boy who needs it. So they verified and at last found that the boy is struggling for life at Cherians heart foundation, Chennai.
But within 30mins that heart should be transplanted; They need to go 20kms and in Chennai traffic and doubted whether it will happen. Then the doctors called traffic police and asked their help and they prepared the ambulance with A/C. So fastly they removed the heart from their son and kept in an ice box and runned towards the ambulance.
When they came out the boy's father saw that ice box and cried like anything. The doctor who carried tht box ran like anything that he didn't even see the ambulance which is waiting outside and he entered the police car which was waiting. He said to the person to just go to Cherian hospital soon. The person who was standing near the car was the Assistant Commissioner and he without seeing his status and jumped to drivers seat and drove the car with full speed.
Every signal traffic got alert and left way for this car and at last within 15mins the heart was given to the doctors in Cherian hospital and it was transplanted to the small boy. Really heart touching....
Do u know the meaning of the name of the boy who died....
His name is Jithenthran - a person who will steal other's heart..............Yes , now he has stole everyone's heart.....
Really ... hats off to the parents ...

May his soul rest in peace

Naa Autograph

2008-10-13T04:51:00.000-07:00

Nenu naa gynapakalu

Arrraara. Entho e Monday naku asalu nachadhu roju antha lazy ga unthundhi , and I start waiting for the weekend .
E roju nenu na alochanalu theluthuunthanu. Entho day antha boring ga undhi eppudu na ma husband vasthara ani eduruchusthu unthanu
Asalu prathi kshanam watch ni chusthu
Na gypakalalo munigpothanu ...
Inka e vanthari kshanalalo eno gurthuk vasthayi dantlo modate ga gurthu vachedhi nenu thanu gadhipani prathi kshanam gurthukustahyi

Nenu na lo nenu a song padkunthu na chiru gypakalani gurtthu chestkunthu malli thana raka kayi eduru chusthu e vantari samyani ma gunapakalu tho gadputhu nu ..

manishi janminchenduku tommindi nelalu kavali kani akarshna,premaku okka kshanam chalemo ?
nenu eppudu prema lo padhano nake theliyadhu e oka kshanam lo prema na jevtham loki vachindho nake teliyaledu
a okksahanam prema jeevtamlo eno marpulu theskuvachindhi
e prema ni matalo entha vevaranchina adhe takuve nemo
a anubuthulu entho madhuramu ga anpistayi, a samyam lo etho chusina ani kothaga anpistahyi
aakasamlo chandrudu ,akasham lo pakshulu , amodati varshapu jalulu ela chuthu una prathidhi entho andamga anpistayi
asalu a rojulu talchkunthe naku navusthundhi
entho adhantha oka kotha bangaru lokam la undedhi

na life lo toli prema oka andamaina gnapakam.aa gnapakalu entho madhuramanayi
Aa Rojulu...Aa Gnapakalu
Eene rojulu gadichipoyina...a gnapakalu matram epudu entho kotha ga untayi...
Ivala mana ventha a prema una and prathi nimsham a prema kshanalu Asvadinchina kuda.. a modathi kshanam eppudu marvalenedi
a kshanam viluva appudu theliya lede..kani a gnapakalu alaage migili unnai.....Malli aa rojulu thirigi vasthe bagundhu anpisthundhi .... Yeppudu manasu lo koluvai unde.... amadurathi kshanala thiyana gynapakalu

prema lo prathi manishki a modati kshanam oka maduramyina anubuthi ga unthundhi emo???????????????

Last respects

2008-10-10T06:42:00.000-07:00

Early in the morning when i got up my mood was very upset but didnt knew why ??
I was feeling bored of the rotiune things happening in life i was thinking about many things which were happening with me ,and a question raised
what changes i am acccepting in my life and what are the differnt ways to change ?
I was guessing the things which change my life , is it the relations or it is the people around or my behaviour or the society.
As I was searching for the changes which affect our life i came across a beautiful inspirational story which i would like to share ...........

Last Respects
Author Unknown

One day not too long ago the employees of a large company in St. Louis, Missouri returned from their lunch break and were greeted with a sign on the front door. The sign said: "Yesterday the person who has been hindering your growth in this company passed away. We invite you to join the funeral in the room that has been prepared in the gym.
"At first everyone was sad to hear that one of their colleagues had died, but after a while they started getting curious about who this person might be.The excitement grew as the employees arrived at the gym to pay their last respects.
Everyone wondered: "Who is this person who was hindering my progress? Well, at least he's no longer here!"One by one the employees got closer to the coffin and when they looked inside it they suddenly became speechless.
They stood over the coffin, shocked and in silence, as if someone had touched the deepest part of their soul.There was a mirror inside the coffin: everyone who looked inside it could see himself.
There was also a sign next to the mirror that said: "There is only one person who is capable to set limits to your growth: it is YOU.You are the only person who can revolutionize your life. You are the only person who can influence your happiness, your realization and your success. You are the only person who can help yourself.Your life does not change when your boss changes, when your friends change, when your parents change, when your partner changes, when your company changes. Your life changes when YOU change, when you go beyond your limiting beliefs, when you realize that you are the only one responsible for your life.

"The most important relationship you can have, is the one you have with yourself."

quote :"You must be the change you wish to see in the world."Mahatma Gandhi

dussehra

2008-10-10T06:41:00.000-07:00

Inspiring stories

2008-09-29T04:59:00.000-07:00

I was reading a book and in that i really liked this story which was very inspiring and i felt sharing it

Roger Crawford had everything he needed to play tennis - except two hands and a leg. When Roger’s parents saw their son for the first time, they saw a baby with a thumb-like projection extended directly out of his right forearm and a thumb and one finger stuck out of his left forearm. He had no palms. The baby’s arms and legs were shortened, and he had only three toes on his shrunken right foot and a withered left leg, which would later be amputated.The doctor said Roger suffered from ectrodactylism, a rare birth defect affecting only one out of 90,000 children born in the United States. The doctor said Roger would probably never walk or care for himself.Fortunately Roger’s parents didn’t believe the doctor. “My parents always taught me that I was only as handicapped as I wanted to be,” said Roger. “They never allowed me to feel sorry for myself or take advantage of people because of my handicap. Once I got into trouble because my school papers were continually late,” explained Roger who had to hold his pencil with both “hands” to write slowly. “I asked Dad to write a note to my teachers, asking for a two-day extension on my assignments. Instead Dad made me start writing my paper two days early!”Roger’s father always encouraged him to get involved in sports, teaching Roger to catch and throw a volleyball, and play backyard football after school. At age 12, Roger managed to win a spot on the school football team. Before every game, Roger would visualize his dream of scoring a touchdown.Then one day he got his chance. The ball landed in his arms and off he ran as fast as he could on his artificial leg toward the goal line, his coach and teammates cheering wildly. But at the ten-yard line, a guy from the other team caught up with Roger, grabbing his left ankle. Roger tried to pull his artificial leg free, but instead it ended up being pulled off. “I was still standing up,” recalls Roger. “I didn’t know what else to do so I started hopping towards the goal line. The referee ran over and threw his hands into the air. Touchdown! You know, even better than the six points was the look on the face of the other kid who was holding my artificial leg.”Roger’s love of sports grew and so did his self-confidence. But not every obstacle gave way to Roger’s determination. Eating in the lunchroom with the other kids watching him fumble with his food proved very painful to Roger, as did his repeated failure in typing class. “I learned a very good lesson from typing class,” said Roger. “You can’t do everything - it’s better to concentrate on what you can do.”One thing Roger could do was swing a tennis racket. Unfortunately, when he swung it hard, his weak grip usually launched it into space. By luck, Roger stumbled upon an odd- looking tennis racket in a sports shop and accidentally wedged his finger between its double-barred handle when he picked it up. The snug fit made it possible for Roger to swing, serve and volley like an able-bodied player. He practiced every day and was soon playing - and losing - matches.But Roger persisted. He practiced and practiced and played and played. Surgery on the two fingers of his left hand enabled Roger to grip his special racket better, greatly improving his game. Although he had no role models to guide him, Roger became obsessed with tennis and in time he started to win. Roger went on to play college tennis, finishing his tennis career with 22 wins and 11 losses.He later became the first physically handicapped tennis player to be certified as a teaching professional by the United States Professional Tennis Association. Roger now tours the country, speaking to groups about what it takes to be a winner, no matter who you are.“The only difference between you and me is that you can see my handicap, but I can’t see yours. We all have them. When people ask me how I’ve been able to overcome my physical handicaps, I tell them that I haven’t overcome anything. I’ve simply learned what I can’t do - such as play the piano or eat with chopsticks - but more importantly, I’ve learned what I can do. Then I do what I can with all my heart and soul.”By Jack Canfieldfrom Chicken Soup for the Soul

Impact Of Thougths

2008-09-25T02:53:00.000-07:00

Thoughts are developed by our mind. and these thoughts control our mind and vice versa

But the ultimate truth is that the state of our mind is nothing but our thoughts
So the thoughts what t we perceive all round us are only the mind in form. So ultimately these thoughts are responsible for changes in our life . Thought creates, thought destroys. So the Bitterness and sweetness do not lie around us, but they are in the mind, in thinking. And these are created by thought.
Thought is the root of our mental status. So we can say that the mind is king of our senses
We are connected to our surrounding by our thoughts, by the state of our mind, by our imagination.

Good and evil, pleasure and pain, are created by our own imagination only.
We create our own world good, evil; pleasure, pain, relations and these are not present in the world. There is nothing good nor bad in this world. Your imagination makes it so. These all belong to the attitude of our mind.
They control our life, mould our character, and shape our destiny.
one thought expands into many thoughts, within a short time Suppose we get an idea to set up a house of our own we start thinking how to build it, next a thought comes how many rooms we should have ,next about the interiors, garden and it goes on expanding. So our imagination is nothing but expansion of our thoughts.

This is a positive thought but it develops a desire and a passion in our life, sometimes these desire and passion help us to set our goals,but at times they lead us to disaster as there is no limit for our thoughts so we can imagine things out of our capability or those which are not possible

Ex:-for a second an idea comes that I am the richest person of this world than imagination goes on and start imagining different things have lot of luxuries and with them some negative thoughts also arise lwhich is in fact not possible but at times these thoughts make us restless.

So, we should always notice the nature of our thought, we should try to understand how our thoughts are so that we can mould them accordingly, have control on them.

As each thought is gives rise to another thought which is responsible for all the of causes and effects, each effect becoming a cause and each cause having been an effect; it is an everlasting cycle .

The three things that raise in our mind are —desire, thought and activity. A desire stimulates a thought; a thought in turn makes mind act accordingly. Action is responsible for our destiny.

We being the master of our own destiny. We ourselves make, by the power of our thought, our destiny. We can do things if we like and stop doing if we don’t like so deciding good or evil is in our hands.

So choosing a destiny is in our own hands by visualizing our own thoughts

Thoughts are of negative and positive.

Negative Thoughts are of worry and fear these are fearful forces within us. They poison the very sources of life, our efficiency to understand our surroundings, the vitality and actions.
These negative thoughts weaken our mind, develop a nature of irritating, and at times may lead to arguments

Positive thoughts are of cheerfulness, joy and courage, heal, soothe, and multiply the mental powers.

But at times our negative thoughts have more control on our mind than the positive thoughts

So one should know how to control their thoughts to lead a happy life.

Thoughts

2008-09-24T13:35:00.000-07:00

At the end of the day if I look back to see what I have done the whole day ….
There is nothing I did I don’t know why???
But today ’I didn’t even do any work nor i cooked something for today’s lunch nor dinner
It is 11 pm and I am still sitting idle or say lost in my own thoughts.
And I really say this thoughts have a serious impact on our day to day life.
I was just browsing the net searching for something and all of a sudden my system got messed up and stopped working so I had to press ctrl+alt+del to make it work again

Then a thought came into my mind

How nice it would have been if we too had such an option

That whenever we messed up in our life we could also simply press ctrl +alt+ Del and start all over again? or we had some other options where we can change small things in our life [:)]

And I started having many thoughts which wouldn’t have happened in real life but I was enjoying imagining those things.

For a second I felt how thoughts impact our day to day life
Quite often we are preoccupied by many thoughts may be positive or negative which are going thru our mind. And these thought become more powerful as we repeatedly memorize them in our mind, so the more we memorize the more powerful the thoughts are.

At times we allow ourselves to certain ideas and problems, and we subconsciously get a kind of pleasure from going through the problem / issue or at times imagining certain things, and once these thoughts come into mind it is difficult to over come them as they become more powerful the more we think the more powerful these thoughts are and then at a certain time we don’t have control on our mind .
As the mind is in such an impact that it doesn’t want to come out of those thoughts .
It is good if we have a positive thought but at times thoughts are negative also .
So it is always better to have control on our thoughts.
I remember some instances where people always used to say that a particular person is day dreaming I.e. nothing but that person is lost in his own thoughts and he is in his own world(body present mind absent)

Personality Development

2008-09-19T10:12:00.000-07:00

Importance Of Life

2008-09-18T03:58:00.000-07:00

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How important life is …….???????

How important is a person to us??????

From some days this question is revolving in my mind

We all know life is valuable but we won’t know importance of it unless something happens.

Sitting in front of the emergency ward when the doctors and nurse run horridly around u shouting loudly talking to each other asking for something.

And I am just sitting still not knowing what is happening inside. Just praying to god and tears rolling in my eyes.

This is not only the situation of me but many others whose loved ones were in the emergency ward at that moment.

At that moment hundred and one thoughts dropped in my mind and none were positive
I swear all negative thoughts which were making me more worried.

Touchwood and thank good nothing happened to my loved one , they were only doing a routine check and later I came to know all that doctors were treating somebody else.

But this situation made me think, how people would react when their loved ones are in emergency.
How much importance are we giving to our loved ones in our daily life???????????

In this mechanical life really do we have time for each other ??????

For one second if I turn back into my life I really see that my life has become more mechanical these days.

I don’t have time to spend with my loved ones….

It is not that I don’t love them anymore but …

That but can be answered in many ways we have many reasons for doing so…but today I feel are those reasons that important than my loved ones.

Staying under the same roof doesn’t mean that we are spending time with each other.

Honestly speaking in a whole day how much time do we spend time with our loved ones?

Do we have time for ourselves?????????

What is the meaning of my life when I am not with loved ones at least during their happy times or sad times.

I want to share one incident which I have seen in the hospital which had shaken me a lot.

When I was sitting outside the emergency ward two ladies came running into the hospital holding a small child who was senseless.

None of them knew what happened to the child and the Childs mother was crying a lot begging the doctors to save the child.

The doctors were in a shocked state not knowing what the cause was, they started doing all the examinations and tests and slowly they found out the reason and started treating.

I hardly could understand what was going on when everything settled down I spoke to the doctor.

I was really shocked to hear the Childs mother has left him on the ground and was having a conversation with the neighbor at 12 in the night and that child has picked up something on the ground and that had turned out to something poisonous.
If she wouldn’t have left him down this wouldn’t have been in that state,

Is that conversation so important than the life of a child????

love hurts..........

2008-09-18T03:07:00.000-07:00

It hurts to love someone and not to be loved in return, But what is more painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let that person know how you feel .

It takes only a minute to get a crush on someone, an hour to like someone, and a day to love someone-but it takes a lifetimeto forget someone

Personality Development

2008-09-18T02:51:00.000-07:00

This images were shared by my husband and i really liked them especially those messages

-----IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE -----

2008-09-17T07:36:00.000-07:00

-----IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE -----

If you love someone because you think that he or she is gorgeous …
Then it is not love –its ‘infatuation’--

If you love someone because you think that you shouldn’t leave him because others think that you shouldn’t…
Then it is not love –its ‘compromise’….

If you love someone because you think that you cannot live with him …
Then it is not love –its ‘lust’….

If you love someone because you have been kissed by him …
Then it is not love –its ‘inferiority complex’….

If you love someone because you cannot leave him thinking that it would hurt his feelings…
Then it is not love –its ‘charity’….

If you love someone because you share everything...
Then it is not love it is” friendship”...

But if u feel the pain of the other person more than him even when he is stable and you cry for him …
That’s “love”...

If you get attracted to their people but stay with him without any regrets...
That’s” love”----

If you let him go knowing that he has to go but he doesn’t want to …
That’s” love”---

Positive Attitude

2008-09-12T21:22:00.000-07:00

Attitudes are positive, negative that depends on the behavior at that particular moment or event.

I feel a person who develops a positive attitude is always successful in life.

When we have a positive attitude, we find that our interactions with others and ourselves become brighter, more productive and we feel good. This in turn makes us healthier and more peaceful.
A person with positive attitude always thinks about possibilities, growth, expansion and success. They expect happiness, health, love and good relationships. They think in terms of 'I can', 'I am able' and 'I will succeed’, and they will try to avoid thinking I don’t, I can’t.

There vision is in making things possible rather than saying impossible.
Power of Positive Thinking
Positive thinking.Creative thinking.Achieving success.Motivation to accomplish your goals.Getting inspired
Choosing happiness.Not giving up.Looking at failure and problems as blessings in disguise.Believing in yourself and in your abilities.Displaying self-esteem and confidence.Looking for solutions.Seeing opportunities.A positive attitude always leads to happiness and success and can change your whole life. If we look at the bright side of life, our whole life becomes filled with light. This light affects not only you and the way you look at the world, but also your whole environment and the people around you...

Attitude

2008-09-09T00:28:00.000-07:00

Human tendency that is nothing but Human nature or attitude..

The nature of each one of us determines how we act, think, and speak. It is possible to temporarily suppress the natural movements of our nature, but at times we will revert to our fundamental modes of behavior.

Attitude is nothing but our psychological state, and that is the source of our thought and action. The way we think and speak is a matter of our nature , as the view of ourself , others, and life itself.

This is why we cannot reason ourselves into thinking differently than what we do presently.

Conversion in such situations is actually impossible, though we may discover the ideas that vibrate in accordance with our nature but we cannot intellectually adopt them due to many reasons………….

Say

We are tend to think in one way only …

We cannot accept changes easily….

At times we don’t want to adopt them…

We mindset ourselves with some rules and we want to follow them only…

And yet times it is our ego wich doesn’t allow us to adopt them………..

So every one of us have framed some principles in our life and we just want to follow them blindly whatever may be the outcome, we dont want to change or compromise at times but still want to lead a happy life..

Looking at the world which is around me I have learnt some important facts in life i.e,

We should have principles in life in such a way that we form some rules not to live but to make our life happier .

I feel everyone have their own principles and rules…

But we never follow them , and mainly we use them for all unnecessary things,like developing our ego….etc etc…

But we never try to follow them to make a happy living….

I feel a our attitude plays a major role to make us success in life .

The longer I live the more I learn about my attitude and the impact of it in my life. And now I realized that it is more important than the factsand the remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day.

I feel we are sole responsible for whatever is happening with us in our daily life.

As we are in charge of our attitude..

And we have the ability to choose our attitude or mode it according to us.

I can say that in 100 percent of my life 20% happens to me and 80% is based on how I react to it. And so it is with you

Do you agree with me?????????????????

We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way..

We never knew what is in future but today ,this moment is in our hands so we can make it happy or successful by having a positive attitude.

Thought for the day ::::::::The golden age is before us, not behind us.

William Shakespeare

LIFE

2008-09-08T22:33:00.000-07:00

Today I would like to post something about life, or some facts which we all now but at times forget them.

LIFE:
Why are we here?

Why are we on the earth right now?

Many of us believe that we have come into this life with a purpose, a reason for living.

Do you also believe it ??????????????????

Considering that every creature on the earth has a specific purpose for existing, and we are an integral part of the earth , it stands to reason that every creature has a purpose to liven and we have a purpose too.

At times even though we believe we are on this earth for a purpose, but we often have a difficult in discovering the reason for living.

If at all we know the purpose also we won’t concentrate in achieving it or making the purpose a success, because most of the time we are concentrating or spending too much time, effort, and energy worrying about what other people think about us. We would rather spend less time for ourselves.

It is the normal human tendency to concentrate on things which are not important rather than concentrating on the important ones.

All of us have talents and abilities that, if fully exploited, would make us successful and solve the purpose of our life or our destiny.

It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in us.
William Shakespeare

None of us know what is our life span, today we are here and we can never say what is there for us in the next moment.

So what I feel is we should live a life in such a way that we enjoy every moment of our life by solving the purpose of our life and by making the world more beautiful than what it is it today.

LIFE IS FULL OF EXCITEMENT ,

so we should just explore our life and keep on enjoying it by overcoming the hurdles and curdles which are on the way ,which is not that easy but it is not that tough also.

Saying things are easy rather then putting things into action.

But putting sayings into actions is possible rather than impossible …or at least we can give a try isn’t it……..

Self Realization

2008-09-07T05:32:00.000-07:00

After writing about the two things the inner self and the outer self I could define self as

Besides the physical body, there exists some thing like “inner Self” which is an integral
Part of one’s life which is a guiding lamp and which is always effulgent. To realize its power and impact,
One needs to assume that it is not only the body or the brain power that guides our life’s actions
But there is something beyond it which lets us decide the good or bad deeds.

Self realization can be defined simply by saying that a person who believes that body and, soul are entirely two different things, is on the path of self realization. Self or the Soul is real whereas Physical body is relative or unreal.

Earlier I discussed the difference between the inner self and the outer self which is nothing but the soul.

What is real and what is relative has to be clearly distinguished.

If one can clearly demarcate both the things, then a person is on the path to understand the power of soul,and when a person understand all this he would be able to have the control in his soul.
The more he realizes the difference the more we learn and the more we have control on our soul to reach the success in our life.

Why am I speaking all this???

We have seen different phases in our life, sometimes good or bad but life is going on
whatever is happening we are just accepting it as it comes or say adjusting ourselves according to it and leading our life.
At times we may be in depression, or with unsatisfaction or just say we think it is our karma and accept it as our fate.

LIFE IS NOTHING BUT MIXTURE OF EVERYTHING.
There is a saying which I have been hearing from my elders …………..

Happiness and sadness occur as a circle in our life and they follow each other.

But we excitingly accept the happier phase but we don’t do the same with the sadness, and we can never accept it also, because it hurts us a lot.
My main aim in this self studying is to have control on my soul which will help me to know myself better and lead a happy life.

Accepting life as it comes is the hardiest part but it is not the toughest right, at least something I have in my control to make life better in the worse situations also.

Ex: we tend to do many things as part of every day of our lives .something’s we do will make us happy and something’s things make us unhappy.

Happiness or sadness is purely our choice isn’t it………..

Life is an experience and the power to enjoy it lies within everyone.

“You are the makers of your own happiness. Whatever the society is, you can choose your attitude. If you stay happy or unhappy, remember it’s purely our choice.”

For most of us, much of our happiness in this material dimension is based on solving all of the problems that occur in order to make our lives smoother, more peaceful, and, thus, happier.
Then when we get the chance to take it easy, we enjoy watching a movie, a walk, or do things which give us relaxation i.e. some form of entertainment.
But merely trying to enjoy our leisure between solving problems is not real happiness. Neither is giving pleasure to our temporary mind and senses real happiness.

In a material world, we are like fish out of water. Why I say this???

As long as we are taking it easy or in some form of environment we are happy, but once we are out of it again our thoughts start revolving within us.

Self Study

2008-09-03T04:51:00.001-07:00

Sorry I was shuffling in different places and didn’t have much time so I couldn’t blog for long.
Today when I was idle I felt like blogging some thing on self study.

Self study: here self study means I speak about studying self

when I say this a question raises in my mind that is I know about me very well, i.e I know what I am, what I do and probably everybody around knows me well so what is there to study to about self????

Here I am not referring to the person what we see or how we look to the outer world here I am talking about the person or the soul which is inside within us which is called innerselfagain a question raises in my mind.

Are we two?????????.........

Common now don’t laugh I am practical ok just give athought for a second,

ok now answer my question are we the same way when we look into the world, and do we behave the same way when we are alone or at least when are with the loved ones.

I can guess by this time u might have understood what I am talking about yes Ur right every one has this phase and this phase I call them as inner self and outer self.

So first I want talk about inner self.

In my coming posts I will discuss why I want to speak firstly on inner self only.

Inner self cannot be known to anyone however near or dear the person .I feel the inner self is my best friend because it has been with me thru my good times and bad times, it helps me deciding good or bad, it thought me good things ....why I say this.....

ok for an example when we have a problem we share with many and each and everybody gives some solution .This means they are only giving a way for solving it but not the solution. But what we do is hear all the ways and then decide what is good and what is bad, at many times this continues sometimes the problem gets solved and sometimes it continues. But in that situations we make ourselves bold and think of many things at times we break down but later we become strong we make ourselves to fight back and in all this things the only thing with me is my inner self.

Do you agree with this??????????

Even though we are sad we have many problems we put on smile on our face and come into the world as if nothing went wrong that is outer self.

Why do we put this smile on the face?

Because we don’t want others to know about our feelings or probably our problems or etc or we don’t like sympathized. So I only mean to say that what we may look to the outside world may not be what we are. We may be entirely different and in order to understand what we are or want we want we have to do a self study.

Self studying is nothing but, studying one's thoughts, attitude, actions, feelings and motives to remove the obstacles to Self realization

What does svadhaya mean

2008-08-01T09:27:00.000-07:00

Svadhaya is not something new it is a word coming from ancient times it is nothing but studying self .Svavdhya term is used in Vedas ,yoga’s and many other scriptures. In individual terms it is defined in many ways but the ultimate thing what svadhaya is nothing but study related to self or study made by self.

yoga study meant of self-nature, kriya, devotion to the lord, self discipline.

Vedic times, study meant the memorization of the traditional teachings through repeated recitation. Study was highly regarded as a viable means of self-understanding and self-transcendence.

Study of spiritual texts and attending satang, spiritual lectures and gatherings.
svadhyaya is a study that one should look within one's own bodymind and lived experience, pondering your own self-nature.

In fact, svadhyaya is more than mere intellectual learning. ,meditation,by which powerful and positive ideas rush to your mind and at once your mental powers are sharpened and lead u to a happy life .

svadhaya teaches us many things
Self- Identity
Self-Power
Self-Duty
self control
self nature.

Here I am not explaining nor keened in explaining what is svadhya I am more ed on the things which are about self study ,the study of inner self.

At times the question rises in my mind what are we, what are we doing, are they right or the things happening with us are right?

we are never alone in this journey nor we are crowed by fellow beings it is the importance of the vision what we have at times which show whether we are alone or in a crowd
Ex:when a person is happy we feel everybody is with us even though nobody is with us but when we are sad we feel the entire world has left us out that is nothing but our vision ,the inner feeling what we produce at times and this feelings weaken our mind and which will make us get different type of thought that are good or bad is to be decided as we don’t have control on those thoughts. So we are always in a dilemma in what ever we study or do, act or.....

Svadhaya The Self Study

2008-08-01T08:58:00.000-07:00

Svadhaya is nothing but studying self..........
Many might of u be thinking what is this name and why did I choose this name.

The main reason is from the day one we have come into this world we have learn many things ,from our fellow beings or say from our surroundings ,but there is always something left to be learnt and we always keep on learning something, new in every walk of our life ,and there will be still a lot to be learnt.
One question always comes into my mind I am learning many things from outside...

But what about my self?

How much do I know about myself?

What do I need for myself?

What do I have to learn about myself?

I would like to share my experiences or the self study which I am doing in every moment of my life to answer these questions.